Top tips for talking about care

Posted on 7 Jun 2018 by Chilton House

There’s never a great time to talk about care options, but if you’re concerned for the safety of a loved one or friend, it’s crucial that you find a way to have this discussion. Here are our top tips for making this often-difficult conversation a little easier for everyone. 

Plan a good time to talk 

As a general rule, there is no time like the present. Ignoring problems can mean you end up having to make a rushed decision in the midst of a crisis. Even if your loved one is in good health and coping well right now, often this is the best time to raise the questions of if, when and where care would be best for them. 

Choose a good place 

Raising the subject in a noisy, crowded environment, such as when you are out for lunch, is not always the best option. Although your loved one may be relaxed in this environment, they may also feel uncomfortable talking about something so personal in an unfamiliar place. Plan to have the conversation in your home or theirs, where it doesn’t matter if tears are shed or tempers become frayed.

Have the right people involved 

If there is someone in your loved one’s circle of friends or family that they are particularly close to, try to have them along for the discussion too. Talk to them before the event so that they understand your concerns and why you are having this conversation now. However, don’t descend upon your loved one on mass; bringing the whole family with you is likely to make them feel ganged up upon and is not a great way to kick things off.

Be flexible 

You might already have a solution in mind for your loved one’s care, but it’s important that you don’t push them into a decision. They need to come to their own conclusions about the best way forward, so allow them to consider different options and listen to their opinion on the matter.

Seek expert help 

Do your homework on what care options are available in the area. Read some brochures and websites. Research with expert organisations such as Age UK for valuable advice on finances, the care system, benefits and legal matters.

Really listen 

The most important thing in all of this is that you listen to your loved one’s views and concerns. If they think you’re not listening, they’re likely to shut down and be unwilling to continue the discussion. Whether you feel their concerns are important or not, they are important to them, so whether it’s something trivial or not, it’s crucial to hear what they have to say and find ways to work around it.

Making a difference at Chilton House 

Here at Chilton House, we put the needs of the individual first. Our personalised care programmes mean each resident is put at ease, with a range of activities and routines they feel comfortable with. From locally sourced, nutritious meals to enriching leisure and entertainment pursuits, we’ll make the transition to supported living as easy as possible for your loved one.

To come and see our home along with your loved one, and experience first hand the warm, welcoming environment that is on offer, just give our team a call.

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